I really hate to admit it, but homemaking has been taking a slide lately. Winter is usually hard for me and I suffer from seasonal affective disorder (SAD) and have also taking on more than I can chew with obligations over the past few months. Although I’ve already made some changes to focus on what’s important, I am working on how to prioritize my homemaking more even while busy.
I don’t know about you, but I’m a better partner and mother when my life is aligned with the things that are important to me. It’s my dream to be a stay at home mom, but my life doesn’t quite fit that reality. That doesn’t mean I can’t bring elements of what I want into the life I have to make it better!
How to Prioritize Homemaking
Thankfully I don’t have to work full time outside of the house. I can earn all the income I need to help support my family right from home through writing and building websites (psst, I do help other people do this too if you’re interested). Which makes my life a lot happier than it could be.
But sometimes life gets in the way. Recently I took on an extra project that I really didn’t have time for and didn’t enrich my life in the ways I hoped it would. It’s finished with now and I’m trying to get back on track with what I want out of life.
When things get busy it always seems like homemaking takes a backburner, which then leaves me feeling bad about my house and my family.
Who this post is for
I just want to cover my bases here: I’m not saying you need to prioritize homemaking if it’s not your thing. I’m all about women doing what’s best for them. If something in this post doesn’t jive with the life you want – skip that tip! I’m all about creating more happiness here.
This post is for….
- Stay at home moms who want to improve their homemaking
- Housewives without kids
- Work at home moms trying to balance work and homemaking
- Religious folks who see the biblical value in homemaking
- Anyone who can use it!
Try and dial other things back
The first thing you can do to prioritize your homemaking is cutting back on other things. For me, this was stepping back from unpaid responsibilities that took away from my family. My decision to take on the extra work was selfish and once I realized that I found myself happier stepping away from it.
If you work at a traditional job, and it’s possible, consider cutting back on your hours. Money isn’t everything if you’re happier working in the home! You could also try and find something that you can do at home to earn money instead of working a traditional job.
Make a list of what’s important
Homemaking means a lot of things, and different things to different people. Make a list of all the things that you want to prioritize with your homemaking including around the house, with the kids, and for your husband.
Try and see if there’s any easy ways to work more of that stuff in. Once you’ve done that, then get creative to find ways to prioritize the other stuff or just focus on the stuff that’s really important.
Get yourself on a schedule
I know I’m personally not a big fan of schedules. One of the things I love most about setting my own hours at home is the flexibility it gives me. But, if I don’t have a cleaning schedule in place, things tend to get put off or forgotten.
Work on developing good routines and habits for yourself so that you can take care of the laundry list of chores that needs to be done.
Share your feelings with your partner
If your spouse is on board with you being a homemaker, see if they can offer some suggestions to help you. Maybe your husband can pick up an extra shift at work so you can drop one of yours, or maybe he can take over a task so you can get some other important things around the house done.
We’re partners in relationships so don’t be afraid to use yours as a resource to help figure things out. Even if it seems like this is a silly, mundane thing to worry about it’s still your life and your spouse is a part of that!
Change how you think about homemaking
This is probably the most important thing you can do to become a better homemaking. You have to consider yourself a homemaking first before everything else. Part of homemaking can be earning an income, but you still can prioritize your home and family while getting work done.
Stops seeing chores as, well, chores. They’re responsibilities you have and they must be done, but hating them won’t make it any better. Find the joy in it.
Remember you can’t do it all
Sometimes we feel like bad homemakers when we’re actually doing a pretty great job. Just because you’re not perfect at it, doesn’t mean you’re still not a great wife, mother, or homemaker. Give yourself a break and celebrate some of the little accomplishments you’ve been making!
In life, we go through different seasons. Sometimes we’re in a season that we can’t prioritize something that’s important to us like homemaking. Maybe you have a newborn at home, maybe you have to work full time, or maybe something else is in the way – regardless, you need to keep in mind that you can’t do it all.
There’s nothing wrong with reaching out for help, either.